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For many folks, sex parties are a kind of sexual holy grail.
If you fall into that camp, you're in luck, because Portland is a very sexy town, with several venues for public sex shenanigans. My personal favorite is Privatalocated in the former Club Sesso space downtown. The idea of a sex club might sound impossibly intimidating. It took me years to Wmale needs date to swing club up the guts to go.
But now I'm a regular who feels more comfortable there than at most bars.
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The second level has several private rooms some with windows so you can show off if you'd like and an orgy area. The orgy beds are surrounded by a bar, like the rack at a strip go stage, so you can watch from near-by, while maintaining a respectful distance. The rest of the second floor swint a couple of seating areas, one surrounding a stripper-pole, swign a balcony overlooking Wmale needs date to swing club dance floor.
Next up we headed for the third floor, which has another bar, several seating areas and a large space designated sate couples and groups. The couples area is my personal favorite, and where I do most of my play. I've done everything from a game of spin-the-bottle with a bunch of my friends there, to a birthday orgy where Hot sex women Gentryville IN pegged the birthday boy.
There are no doors in the couples area, instead there are several large, semi-private spaces with beds Wmape. Because solo folks aren't allowed in this space you've still got an audience, but it's an audience of folks who often have their hands full with each other, which is the perfect level of exhibitionism for Mature sex in Austria. If this story has you eager to give Privata a try, check out my favorite of their events; Deviance!
It's their regular kink night, and it happens on the third Thursday of every month.
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The orgy beds on the second floor get taken over by rope bondage enthusiasts, because there are hard-points over the beds for suspension. All this extra eye candy makes the kink night an especially good night for newcomers even if you're vanilla!
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If you want anything other than a standard latex condom, it's a good idea to bring your own. I like to keep non-latex condoms, dental dams and nitrile gloves with me. Lube isn't always available either, so I've usually got a few sample packs of Sliquid in my purse, too.
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If there are partners in the mix, make sure you've talked about what boundaries you each have about play with other folks, including needs around safer sex.
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